"I think that it’s important to remember that intelligence and confidence are two of the most beautiful attributes a person can have. But it’s very important to also remember that compassion, generosity, and humility are their c o u n t e r p a r t s, and without them intelligence and confidence simply become arrogance.”

wilkirby:

B B 1 6  Q U E E N S

There are two ways you can get through pain. You can let it destroy you or you can use it as fuel to drive you to dream bigger, work harder.

I: You had some tough competition in you category, what do you think it was that put you over the edge?

We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise you will threaten the man.’ Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support. But why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors – not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.(x)